On the path to personal growth and Self-overstanding, there’ll be many teachers and sources of inspiration to help you along the way. During my own journey, many musicians have be a huge source of inspiration and solace when Life’s demanded more of me than I thought I could handle. It was at one of these times that I discovered ‘Forever No More’ – an acapella ‘spoken word’ track by Mary J. Blige, taken from her album ‘No More Drama’ – aptly titled as I was definitely creating drama at the time it was released! But the lyrics are beautiful IMO and I want to share them with you here. In-joy!
No more invisible speechless, deaf and blind child
With neglected pleasures being addicted to denial
Floating through time, gravitating towards a warm arm
With an appetite for the emptiness that promises no harm
No more uncontrollable eruptions of emotional depression
A primal SOS from the barren prison of selfless expression
That only the guilty with innocent souls know
Buried in the social scar-tissue of a defective Ego
No more relentless sifting through bodies seeking Self
Settling through competitive combat for what’s left on the shelf
A mad me lay a supply and demand driven by a gullible pride
That leads to sedating the YOU that suffocates inside
No more forever, no more because I done shut my eyes
And the difference between God’s word and Man’s will was realised
Seeing opposing parallel lives, some liquid and others frozen
Lead me to never seek from Man what God has chosen
Then the negative whispering subsided and the panicking ceased
The undercurrent suppression of pent-up terror was released
As the mystery of the unknown manifested pristine clear
A positive message of Truth entered my ear
Now across my face is a brand new smile
With a newly revealed meaning of a Destined Child
A message of hope is being released from my heart
And I am overwhelmed with dedication to do my part
All I ever wanted was to be as I once was: Unbounded
Somehow it got all twisted and before long, sounded
As though life was a continuous connive, thrive, drive
Choking out the simple joy of just being alive
Now I am filled with love and I sing a love song
A song for yesterday, today, tomorrow and beyond
My new prayer is thank you God for setting me free
And thank you God for giving me back me
“There ain’t no black in the Union Jack.” I heard this a lot when I was growing up. It summed up the racial mood of the time, where overt racism was the norm and a person of African-Caribbean heritage would be told “go back where you come from’ at least once a day. Sadly racism has been used as a tool to divide and oppress humanity for centuries and many people (‘black’ or ‘white’) have bought into the stereotypes.
As a child and during my early teens, I wasn’t immune to the effects of the ‘divide and conquer’ tactics of racism but by the time I was 18, I had begun to question and challenge the racial divisions that were a part of my daily life; I wanted to change things in my own way. I knew I wasn’t going to eradicate racism in one fell swoop but one philosophy that had captured my imagination during those years was: Each One, Teach One. I decided that that was how I was going to challenge racism...one person at a time
My quest for world change started on a Youth Club trip to the Lake District in England...but it wasn’t going to be as easy as I thought...
My mum always used to say: “There’s a blessing in everything if you take the time to look...”, and most days I’m able to witness the truth of this statement. But on the days when I’m having difficulty keeping my ego-mind in check, the wisdom in that statement gets lost in the noise of my mind. Luckily, today wasn’t one of those days; in fact today was an awesome day: I’ve felt peaceful, my intuition has been razor sharp and I’m filled with the simple joy of just being alive. I’m a huge fan of Ted.com, which shares ‘riveting talks by remarkable people, free to the world’. One of my favourite talks on the site is called ‘The 3 A’s of Awesome’ by Neil Pasricha, author of the book ‘The Book of Awesome’ and 1000awesomethings.com.
In the video, Neil recounts some of the challenges he’s experienced, how they affected him and how he used them to change his life. He highlights 3 main things (beginning with ‘A’) that helped him turn his life around: Attitude, Awareness & Authenticity.
I don’t own a TV anymore...I haven’t had one for 8 years now. But I still like to catch up with some of my favourite programmes via the various online media players for the UK channels and of course, I check out YouTube for all the weird and wonderful stuff that’s never shown on TV. Of all the programmes I liked to watch back in the days when I owned a TV, was CSI: Crime Scene Investigation and at the end of a not-so-recent episode, something caught my attention. The episode had been centred on the case of a woman whose obsessive hoarding had turned her daughter into a serial killer who buried bodies under the house. Reflecting on the psychological motivations of people who hoarded possessions, the show referenced the work of German Social Psychologist Erich Fromm, who believed that humans had 2 basic orientations: ‘having’ and ‘being’. He stated that One of Fromm’s predictions was of a society that was obsessed by possessions. a culture driven by commercialism like here in the UK and in the US, is doomed to the ‘having’ orientation, which leads to dissatisfaction and emptiness. Sound familiar?
One day my Soul just opened up.
And things started happenin’.
Things I can’t quite explain.
I mean...
I cried and cried like never before.
I cried the tears of ten thousand mothers.
I couldn’t even feel anything because,
I cried ‘til I was numb.
One day my Soul just opened up.
I felt this overwhelming pride.
What I was proud of,
Only God knows!
Like the pride of a hundred thousand fathers.
Basking in the glory of their newborn sons.
I was grinnin’ from ear to ear!
It’s beautiful how the Universe has a way of placing us in the right place, at the right time, to learn whatever lessons we’re here to learn on this journey called Life. I’ve lost count of the many encounters I’ve had with people and situations that have served to remind me that I’m Blessed...and to be grateful for what I have.
Meeting Linda was one of those moments...
It was a cold, wintry night in London when I met Linda. It was one of those ordinary encounters that led to an extraordinary outcome for me. I was standing on the platform at Victoria Tube station, waiting for a train to take me home. As I glanced across to the hallway that separated my platform and the one for trains going in the opposite direction, I noticed her small frame, huddled by the escalator. By her side was a shopping trolley, overflowing with her belongings. On top of the trolley was an assortment of faded, coloured plastic bags filled with God-knows-what, all tied securely to the trolley with a frayed rope.
I don’t know why she caught my eye; she just did...
Often when we want to make changes to our lives the niggling voices of fear and doubt start to sing their chorus and if given enough power and attention, can have us scurrying back to the security of whatever it was that we wanted to change.
Many times, the fears and doubts centre around our need for survival e.g. how will I pay the rent, feed myself, etc. and that can make the process of change seem like a struggle. Believe me, I’ve had my fair share of these mind-battles, yet when I’ve set my intentions to create changes in my life, I’ve been blessed with the right assistance and support to enable me to take a leap of faith into what I know is another magical step on the next part of my life journey. Sometimes the assistance I need has arrived in an unexpected shape or form but it has always arrived.
So tell me, does the Universe really provide what we need when we need it? I believe so and there’s a story that illustrates this point so well...you may know it already.